Quest for connection ends as detachment

As living beings, we all experience different kinds of emotions. We cry when we are sad, we laugh when we are happy etc., irrespective of whether it is human beings or animals. Meanwhile, some human emotions are paradoxical, but I am not talking about the paradoxical side of emotions for now.

Emotions are invaluable traits that bind and seperate living beings. It can keep human beings and animals together and even throw away our blood relations. "These human emotions seldom make humans weak and less emotional". The last point may make you bewildered, yet it is true. But what happens when the heart yearns for connection, only to find itself alone? Sometimes these emotions cause a combat between heart and brain as well. 

Think about a time when you felt close to someone, only to drift apart. This is the story of how emotions shape our lives.

Long ago, in a small town, a boy was born into a loving nuclear family. His arrival filled his family with boundless joy. As he grew, his playful and endearing nature lit up even the gloomiest surroundings. When he began school, his infectious energy drew many friends, and he played and laughed freely, unburdened by hesitation.

After two joyful years, he was moved to a new school. For the first time, at a tender age, he felt the sting of separation, as if torn from his parents on his first day of school. Though too young to name the feelings of “attachment” or “bonding,” he experienced their weight—the pain of losing those he cherished.

In his new school, he rediscovered the warmth of connection, forming deep bonds and reminiscing about his old friends. But life, like a coin, has two sides, and every day has its night. For the first time, he encountered “hate.” He learned that not everyone would like him, no matter how kind he was. Yet, he also discovered that good deeds could turn foes into friends and that “adjustment” could foster harmony. By adapting to others, he made his life more fulfilling and his soul content, attracting people with his genuine character.

As years passed, he entered college and faced the darker side of human emotions. He realized that adjustment alone couldn’t sustain bonds. People’s behavior and loyalty depended on their choices, not just their efforts. He saw that society often valued superficial traits like “looks” and “money” over kindness or compromise. His willingness to adjust and please others was sometimes taken for granted, turning his once-optimistic outlook pessimistic. He began to lose himself in the effort to keep others close, questioning the value of the relationships he had cherished.

This shift reshaped his perspective. He grew skeptical of new connections, wary that people approached him only when they needed something. Even those who seemed excited at first would fade away when their needs were met. The closer the bond, the more it hurts when people change overnight. This made him doubt the authenticity of emotions and struggle to trust others. He even felt friendship as one-sided.

He learned a painful truth: the more you cling to people, the more likely they are to slip away, labeling you an “emotional fool.” Disillusioned, he chose a path of detachment. He stopped chasing relationships or pleading for people to stay. Instead, he embraced those who genuinely chose to remain in his life, letting go of the need to force connections. His quest for bonds ended in a newfound acceptance of detachment as a form of self-preservation.

In the end, he understood that if people want to stay, they will always find a way to choose you, time and again. But when they decide to move on, no amount of effort can hold them back; they will find new people or priorities. Desperation for connection risks losing oneself. True bonds form naturally, with those who value you for who you are. God brings different people to life to make us strong. Some people turn them into memories and some lessons.

Thanks ...

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